Are you a negative thinker? This may be your cup of tea!
“Don’t Let Others Tell You What to Become.” – Anonymous
The First Commandment (?)
Change your perspective! And yes, I am telling you right now what to become. I am giving you orders to see things the other way around. I am telling you right now to become a person who wrestles with negativity and disregard that “who the hell are you?!” thought coming in your mind.
Who the hell am I?
I am a bald-headed nobody, and was a negative person just like you. I’m over it so I put my insights and realizations from different references into writing, hoping that it can hit the right clout and help them in pursuit of positivity, happiness, and inner peace. And of course, you might have misunderstood me when I said “change your perspective!” because again, you took it negatively.
Here’s the thing: most of us don’t realize that it’s okay to heed other peoples’ advice about the ideal person that we should become, on a certain degree, however. We tend to deflect those remarks (like “change your perspective!”) by other people because we somehow see it as a mockery guised in the name of friendship, or, upon reading this, a moneymaking scheme [because this is a blog post] guised as a People-Helping-People (PHP) blog to attract the right audience. Or maybe I am wrong.
Emotional Styles: We See Things Differently
Anyhow, regardless if I am wrong or right, it only demonstrates that different people see things differently. Simply put, different people have different emotional experience even if the environmental stimulus is the same. And we are also aware that our responses to life’s bullets and whatnots are different from other people. Some people laugh amidst adversities while others mourn, for instance.
These differences elicit peoples’ different Emotional Styles. It’s like a fingerprint! Emotional Styles is a product of more than 30 years of research about the neuroscience of emotions. How? I also have the same question but when the Buddhist, best-selling author, neuroscientist monk started talking about brain waves, and pluses (+) and minuses (-) and graphs, I didn’t bother to continue reading. Who wants to read something like that? However, it says that they were able to point out brain activities underlying each emotional style.
Neuroplasticity: The Good News!
Recent discoveries in neuroscience tell us that while our Emotional Styles is consistent, over time we can change them! Remember that our brain, based on the concepts of neuroplasticity, can change as an offshoot of experience. In fact, there are specific mental activities/trainings that can cause plastic changes in our brain. And these mental activities and exercise, if we do it systematically over time, it can change specific structures and brain functions and, in turn, can alter the different components of our Emotional Style.
So, if you want to wrestle your negativity and tap it out using systematic mental activities and exercise, here are some tips that can sure help you win the fight. BTW, there are 9 tips (because “10” is mainstream) towards positivity and you can do one, or do them all together in a day. It’s your choice!
Yes, I know. I am preaching.
Message from the author: If you think that this blog is your cup of tea then share, like, and subscribe. That’s the best thing you can do after the blogger’s effort to come up with something worth reading (if you think so) during your wee hours. Also, I do not bear a Grammarian Hat so bear with the errors. Thanks!