The Midterms Aftermath

Who’s to blame for the F?

The F Grade

After the exam week, the Psychology society was abuzz by the students, specifically the Juniors – complaining, making alibis, justifications, denial, and etc. The midterms, for them, was just like Sendong – mentally and physically devastating; and the aftermath? Aside from disappointment, they elicit their enervating locus of control.

There are chismis that had been crisscrossing from student circles that are like the Kalaw’s – group-oriented birds that really sound infuriating especially during noon. That is because, some third year students, during their breaks, they seem to talk about how meager they perform in midterms because of something that is beyond their control.

Not to offend anyone, but most of the avowals I’ve overheard sounded like: “Si Ma’am/Sir man gud kai (insert word), maong bagsak ko,” “wa man ko katarong study ato Bai kay busy kaayo,” “ako mabagsak? (F gyud biya),” “wa man pud ko resources gud.” “Naa plano si God nganong ingon ani and result.” And there are lots of lines akin to those that I failed to mention.

From those statements, the only thing that rings a bell is the fact that they are using different social strategies to feel better—not to get insecure with others, or not to look like a lame duck amongst their peer.

Worst, there are some students who settle on their poor performance. They believe that a clinging grade, or F on a difficult subject, is the utmost of their capacity. But wait! Nobody relishes from a grade of F or D, right? So they simply put the blame on everything that they think is out of their hands.

Also, it is clear that they are making alibis, excuses, justifications, denial, and laying the blame on others. And if an individual keeps on doing those, rest assured that they will not see core of the problem – their faulty cognitions that are often manifested on their speech. Moreover, the practice of manufacturing reasons would also make one believe that failure, especially if it becomes a self-norm, is acceptable. It is undoubtedly a hoax directed to no other than, their selves!

In short, they tend to QUIT! And thus, they hamper their potentials that had been dormant due to their destructive mentality. Note that quitting would just make everything grave. But then, for those who are externally-bound, it is the best solution to things that seem to be spinning out of control. It becomes a habit for them and they end up with nothing.

Generally the locus of control they demonstrate are externally focused, to the point where it becomes debilitating. And it’s just like a sailor sailing on an open sea, and amid the whirling waters, he dismisses to use the paddle situated right under his nose. More’s the pity; they are letting bad fate and misfortune shore them to the “isle of anxiety.” And as a result, they tend to become more handicapped than ever.

Not only that it causes one to feel helpless, but it also makes one insecure and inferior in making decisions. When it comes to life-changing decisions, they also tend to be dependent on other people.

I am not saying that external factors do not affect us. But again, the effect of these things on us should be limited. We shouldn’t really let them take control of our lives. Rather we need to become responsible over our decisions. Whatever the outcomes are, we should understand that our choices are behind each and every one of these outcomes. In other words then, we must see to it that we are the captains of our ships. By being so, when we find our ships off-course and battling a maelstrom, we can easily turn towards a different direction. Thus, we also come to understand that we are free to create the lives we want to live and the future that we have set our eyes upon.

I think I am getting my point across, or at least I hope I am anyway. I do not exactly know how to cut this article short but rather than allowing myself to become circumlocutory, I’ll just end with this statement,

“Remember that each day you live is tantamount to writing a page in your life story. Life is short, make your own decisions and make the most of it.”


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25 thoughts on “The Midterms Aftermath

  1. This made me remember getting a bad grade in a particular subject in college. I know I’m not the brightest one in class, but it somehow hurts to see that there things you can’t control. In my case, some professors can get away with “guessing their students’ grades” when it’s time for giving them out. *sigh* I don’t blame it entirely on them, and glad it didn’t pull me down either. I just came to realize that we don’t always get what we want, or even, what we deserve.

  2. Some students get excuses from what is deficient to them: money, moral support, possessions, belongings, capabilities, etc. Unfortunately, few of them realize, that being weak doesn’t end to be frail, rather, it’s accepting to learn and embrace to what life can offer.

  3. I like how you put it… the “isle of anxiety’. Looking back, I believe I have been in that isle on more than one occasion. Yes, it’s debilitating, it’s depressing, it’s everything negative. Yes, our success depends on nobody else but ourselves. In the same manner, our downfall will be our own doing.

  4. I always get poor grade in college .I got F grades but still I manged to finish my course. I was a sickly student, hospital is my 2nd home but that did not stop me from graduating Dentistry. Some student don’t value their parents hard work just to send them to college and i pitty them for that. they will suffer the consequences in the end.

    • Yep. Although external factors could matter sometimes, but we must try to look into our selves and see what is our contribution to the mishap. 🙂

  5. I don’t look at grades as something that will make or break my student life, but I do value the hardship that it entails since I’m a working student (esp. in the monetary aspect).

    People like that should know their accountability. You can’t blame other people all the time.

  6. i could remember my college days when i tend to settle on poor performance. I am guilty of that but then i realize that if i don’t work hard for it then nothing will happen and i won’t improve. glad i never failed a subject during college 🙂

  7. I have to agree with Sumi on this. I personally was fortunate not to have had really a problem with my grades. But the fact of the matter is that there are some professors that take a wild guess on the grades, or base these on whether they like the student or not. This was something that a friend of mine, who is now a professor in a college here, admitted over coffee once.

  8. We can come up with all kinds of excuses but in the end results we reap will depend on us. Barring decisions that are totally beyond our control, we have the power to make things happen.

  9. i remember when i was in college that i failed one major subject. i prayed for a removals exam and I passed. whew! it was my life lesson to keep studying and studying!

  10. I remember a class that i never even bothered to attend as the professor just guesses the grades that he gives then still dream about it until fearing i will get 5 (that’s F equivalent)… crazy i had that deep-seated fear somehow no matter how crazy that class is

  11. I have looked at studying in a different way, the more you insist in putting information the more is disappear. It like putting water using a pressurized hose, it just spills out. unlike pouring water gently from a pitcher, everything stays. Just a reminder that the whole pitcher of water will not be accommodated by the glass, so know your limitations.

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